For your own good !

I started to hate ppl using this phrase "for your own good" lately, especially when a mum says it to her kids. Perhaps, to certain extent, what a mum did really for her kids good, but I think this doesn't apply to my elder sis.

My niece Rachel is sitting for upsr in this mid September. My elder sis really drills her madly.

I asked big sis, what if Rachel didnt perform up to mark ?! What if Rachel didn't meet your expectation ? Big sis replied me hysterically: I dunno, I dun wan ke shin cannot perform, why she cannot perform, I have been training her for years, she can do it. Why neighbour kids no need to study n slumber also can get good results, why ke shin cannot?! ...

I told big sis stopping drilling Rachel into this crazy extent, dun pressure yourself n Rachel so much. I told her u cannot handle your own pressure n u pass these pressure to everyone in the family.. For what ?! What's the point of getting good result n without a happy family ?!!! Big sis replied : cannot, I have oledi putting in my effort for years, now, another week or two to go, I cannot stop. I cannot afford to see my effort in vain.

Now, is that really for Rachel's good ?! Is she happy ??? Good has many different definitions n everyone needs the good from different aspect. I understand every parents wan their kids have good academic results but 姐, your way n thinking, at least to me, are super wrong. U r over extreme liao. Encourage n guide them to study n learn in a happy learning environment n not scolding everyone when u r depressed n pressured by Rachel not so good results. If I have a mum drilling me to that extent n keep telling me for my own good n keep telling me how much effort she has been putting in on me, I would tell mum: pls stop loving me that much, pls stop putting those efforts n expectations on me, pls divert some of the attention to others, I dun need that much of your love, as your love suffocating me.... Start to understand why some kids become rebellious even from good family, if I have a mum like that, I would also try not to perform so she won't expect that much. 姐, still remember ah mei's friend's mum, u r abt like her now. I think even more extreme in certain sense.

Maybe is yourself who too kiasu n scare to lose face to your neighbours ??!! Rachel definitely will not fail, just the matter of how many As she can get... So what to get full As, so what if she didn't get full As. Don't use I love her so much as your excuse n shield.. Pls try to stand on Rachel's view as well as ang ko ko.. I heard u screamed in high pitch hysterically like a mad woman, that was really scary n also worrisome. Haiz... I hope u recover from illness soon.

Another purpose of writing this down is to remind not to become a crazy n mad mum in future. Be mediocre in everything for a happy family n life.